When I was growing up, my mother was very keen on a couple of words: PLEASE and THANK YOU. One of the things we always had to give thanks for was the meals that were put on the table. We were taught to eat everything we were served and once the plate was polished clean, we were expected to say, “Thank you, mom, for this meal; it was very good.” My father not only reinforced the rule but led by example.
We all still remember the day my little, then five-year-old, brother set over a plate of cold spinach crying. He knew there was no hope for him – he had to eat it all. After a long time and much struggle, the green “stuff” disappeared and the white plate popped out. In between his tears you could hear him say, “Thank you, mom, for this meal; it was very good. But please don’t make it again!”
Even though it may sound like a very old-fashioned upbringing and some in our society may consider it too harsh, both my brother and I are very grateful for it. It didn’t do us any harm but taught us much discipline that we found very helpful later in life.
After I got married, my husband made sure that for everything I did for him, whether it was meals, laundry, or just small favors, he would say, “Thank you.” I didn’t ask or expect it from him, but he would give it freely. It was then I began to understand the power of these two small words: He appreciated me and appreciated even the little things that others may consider a part of the “wife’s job.” And I felt valued. This led me to wanting to do even more for him and serve him and our family with a joyful heart.
Saying “thank you” not only blesses the receiver but also helps to create a grateful attitude in the one who pronounces these words. Encourage your children to say “thank you” often. Encourage them to appreciate others and give thanks where it is due. One day they will grow up into mature adults who will make their spouses and people around them feel much valued and appreciated.
